Need Help and Support

hey @Trissy71 sounds like you've got lots on your plate at the moment - i imagine that worrying about your relationship, physical health, financial aspect, etc all at once would be so draining, it makes sense that you'd feel burnt out. 

i'm sorry that things have been hard, and you absolutely deserve a break. i'm wondering, are you getting any financial and/or professional support at the moment? i'm going to link some free services here, feel free to check them out:

• Carer Gateway - variety of supports for carers
• Ask Izzy - has a range of supports from financial to emotional
• Talk to a counsellor - Beyond Blue - Beyond Blue
• Free mental health and wellbeing support available for anyone in Australia | Australian Government Department of Health, Disability and Ageing

when things feel too much, i like to journal and create a plan around adding in self-care or trying new activities. even if some days, i only have 5 spare minutes - i try do something that calms me, like watching a bit of my comfort/fav tv show, soaking in some sun, listening to music, etc. i know it might seem small, but having that time to just focus on things that make me feel safe or comfy really does help recharge my battery, even if it's by 2% - i'm wondering if you have an activity like that, that might help you recharge?

i'm really glad you have your dog - you're definitely not alone in saying this. pets really are amazing hey. the community is also here for you. i know it can be hard to see that things can get better, especially when everything feels exhausting - but i assure you that things can change. it can be scary taking the steps to seek support and leave your relationship, etc., and that's okay. you've already shown strength in reaching out today. take it one small step at a time, we're rooting for you 💙

Hi @Trissy71 , welcome to the forum and glad you've reached out. 😊

I recognise some of those thoughts as is you read my mind sometimes! They're certainly not fun thoughts, are they? 😥

Burnout is aweful. I've become increasingly burntout over the last few years and just recently decided to take some time out to deal with it cos it was only getting worse and making those thoughts about life worse. The forum has a recently-created thread about neurodivergent burnout, but i reckon a lot of the tips and discussion there applied to non-neurodivergent burnout too. If youre interested, its Neurodivergence and burn out .

One of my goals for taking time off to recover from burnout is to try to find something i *enjoy*. Reconnect with what that emotion feels like.  It can be hard to know where to start though, or as you say - what to do with yourself - when its been so long since feeling it.

I struggle a lot with balancing chronic fatigue, pain, and depression. When one is problematic it affects the other 2 also. And working - it just affects all 3 directly.

Did you have any hobbies as a child or in past years that you did by choice? (Before feeling burntout or having to stop for caring duties)

Where would you go if you could travel in a campervan? Or any transport really! As far or close as you like.

Thanks. I have tried all those places

 Rejected by NDIS and Gateway is hopeless.

Anyway. Thanks for your support. ❤️