Is there anybody out here

hey @lightseeker welcome!! sorry we missed your post, i'm really glad you've reached out again 😊

we've got the Fancy a cuppa , Connect now 2 thread - it's great for everyday catch ups. members do respond at different times, but it's a lovely space to pop in at any time. we can tag you in that thread now 😊

Hi,

Do you have any advice for someone like me or maybe a pointer in the right direction with the stuff I raised?

i tried looking for your last post, @lightseeker is this the question you're referring to?

What advice would you give for someone not good at ball games, but understand that life is tough and what does no harm makes you stronger and that there is always tomorrow and selflessness and humility are virtues?

if so, would you feel comfy sharing a bit more about what you're looking for? from what i gather, it seems like you're trying to be less hard on yourself and persevere - am i on the right track?

Thank you for your response.

I am bruised and hurt by a lifetime of abuse and struggles and I feel that I need help.

I have no work, money, staying with friend temporarily and I feel that if I cannot find my tribe I'm lost.

Theory - a community loves you they'll want the best for you and help with life. If they don't you'll get nowhere.

Where is the community that can loves me, understands me, who wants the best for me, who'd employ me in a meaningful job role is what I need help with finding.

Could you please point me in the right direction? I am treading water and need a little help.

i'm so sorry to hear what you've gone through @lightseeker you've shown so much strength in being here and reaching out. as peers, we don't necessarily have the perfect answer but we're here to share what we can and sit beside you on your journey 💙

having that financial instability and lack of a strong social circle would make it harder, but i really appreciate that your willingness to try find it. it's a great mindset to have.

here are some links/supports that may be worth looking into:

• Ask Izzy - they have a range of free services (from housing support to emotional support)

in terms of building a community - it does take time. you're already apart of this online community, you can come connect any time. as for a face-to-face community, i'm wondering if the friend you're staying with can help introduce you to more people/take you to social events? councils run free programs throughout the week that also provides an opportunity to meet new people and connect over shared interests. have a look into your local council's program and activity guide and hopefully there's something that calls to you.

here's some free activity/clubs too look into: Community And Connections | Griefline

for counselling/crisis supports, here are some free, 24/7 ones you can reach out to:

• NSW Mental Health Line - 1800 011 511
• Lifeline Australia – 13 11 14
• Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636
• Mensline Australia – 1300 789 978
• Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467

as for jobs, it might be worth looking into atWork Australia to see if you can get a job coach to help you? there's also Finding employment | The Salvation Army Australia, they also offer housing support.

i hope these services help you get started. you absolutely deserve to feel seen and supported. 💙

Thank you for your response.

I'll try to avenues you highlighted for me.

How do you reboot your brain and body to rid of the sick feeling caused by fear, despair, hurt, exclusion, rejection? How do you determine what is a reasonable/realistic/rightful quest for life and what are the things you should give up on? Are we supposed to aim for the stars or keep a low profile? 

Thank you for sitting beside me.

@rav3n 

@lightseeker 

I am happy to be your virtual friend. Tag me anytime and I will respond when I am online. I am sorry to hear that you are struggling at the moment. I hope that things get better for you. 

Hi @Oaktree 

Thank you for offering guidance.

Could you please look at my previous post? What do you think?

@lightseeker 

Sure, just a second

No sweat bud.

@Oaktree 

@lightseeker 

I answered you on the Hello thread

@Oaktree 

Thank you for sharing your story. I am glad to hear that you are doing better and found your stride. Keep up the good work, it is important to not to feel singled out when life gets tough, to remain hopeful, and to reach out if stuff gets too hard. 

I am wondering if anyone else would have any input or wisdom to offer regarding my path seeking and philosophical questions. 

I have good qualifications, 20 years of corporate career behind me and sound physiological functioning. Still, I am being rejected, ignored and ghosted. 

Sorry to bother,

This forum is bad

Hi @lightseeker I'm sorry that you're not enjoying the forums so far, or that they're not meeting your needs. 

I'm hearing that you have a lot of big questions and are seeking other's thoughts and opinions. With the forums being an a-synchronous space conversations tend to move at a slower pace, and often these philosophical questions may require members to take longer to consider an answer. 

While you wait for the right members to find your post, and craft their thoughtful responses I might encourage you to browse the forums and provide some support yourself by posting in existing threads. Not only will this help to pass the time, but it can help to boost your sense of community and help you to start forming connections. I know that you're looking for a tribe and community, so perhaps this can help as a starting to point to feel that community here on the forums.